News Reality

The Power Of Eye Contact

by www.huffingtonpost.com
There is one thing people fear the most when they first meet somebody: eye contact. As kids, we were taught this by our parents, by our social and peer structures. And, for one reason or another, we were taught that eye contact is something we need to avoid. Think about it. Have you ever talked to a baby? They stare directly into your eyes. Have you ever talked to a little kid? They stare directly into your eyes. Yet, when you talk to an adult, their eyes wander all over the place. It's almost like they have a fear of being seen or exposed. Eye contact is something that we fear because we've been taught not to look into someone's eyes. It's a learned trait. And, like most of the stuff that I teach and believe in, it traces back to the roots of how we got fucked up as kids. You see, we're pure when we come out of our mom's vagina (I had to say it like that because that's the only way to put it). As we slid through the birth canal and into the nurse's waiting arms, we were pure, pure with an open heart, pure in being uncensored. Full of love. Full of energy. Eyes wide open. As we get older, we get beaten up by society. We get teased when we're younger. We make eye contact with a girl and she rejects us. We make eye contact with a bully, with somebody in school and they punch us. These are the life lessons that have ruined the pureness of who we are. But you know what I say? Fuck those life lessons. Fuck them all. Because they're all a bunch of bullshit. If you want to connect with somebody, you want to connect to their soul. You want to connect to their being. You want to see who they really are. And if you want to do that, then you need to look inside their eyes because the eyes are the windows to the soul. You want to see if somebody is true or if somebody is authentic? Look in their eyes. You can read them right away. You can look and see who they are. If somebody looks down or up or around you will see that they're nervous or intimidated. Ask any good poker player and they will tell you: they read eyes nonstop. You want to know if Donald Trump is telling the truth? Take a look at his eyes. Look at everything. Don't be afraid to look at somebody's eyes because that's how we were designed and built. We're not designed to look away from each other. We were designed to stare at one another, to admire each other's beauty, admire each other's souls, admire each other's mind, admire everything. So, I strongly suggest you start practicing better eye contact. Be more aware of how your eyes wander when you are having a conversation. If you realize your eyes are wandering, try to stay focused in and allow somebody to see you, because eye contact builds trust as well. When someone can't look you directly in the eye, I don't trust them. Because it means that they're searching or looking or seeking an answer or they're not sure where they're at in life. Eye contact is everything. Practice it.

-- This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.


Read Full Article On www.huffingtonpost.com
Latest
NEW YORK (Reuters) - Two fossil fuel industry groups dropped their attempts to intervene in a court case over climate change this week after failing to reach an agreement on a unified legal position o
South Korea OKs 1st civilian contact with North Korea since North's nuclear test in January 2016
SAN FRANCISCO (Reuters) - California regulators said Volkswagen AG's spending plan on clean vehicle infrastructure had shortcomings and that it lacked details on how it would help disadvantaged commu
A federal judge in Manhattan said UPS needed to pay a “very significant award” to curb future conduct and to send a message to company executives.
A version of this article was originally published on Forbes. Sign up for Caroline’s newsletter to get her writing sent straight to your inbox. Millennials may be perceived as narcissistic, laz
Pharmacies are preparing to distribute naloxone to reverse the effects of an overdose             
Professor Bliss unraveled the story behind the discovery of the hormone, which transformed diabetes from a death sentence into a manageable condition.
A group of nurses marched to the B.C. Nurses’ Union office in Burnaby on Thursday to protest the removal of three candidates from union election ballots. “This is the sort of action y
WASHINGTON (Reuters) - The U.S. Environmental Protection Agency said it proposed a rule on Thursday to postpone compliance dates for effluent guidelines for steam electric power plants published in No
Molly MacDonald was diagnosed with an early stage of breast cancer in 2005. The Beverly Hills mother-of-five launched The Pink Fund to help other women with the burden of financial stress,
It's obvious that youngsters who harm themselves need psychiatric care, but drugs, alcohol, and violent injuries should set off similar mental-health alarm bells, researchers say.
Testing mice, scientists from the University of California at San Francisco showed how certain cells in the skin send out signals that stimulate hair follicles to regenerate.
A study found that when couples had sex more frequently, there would be much more affection shown in their daily lives, physically and verbally. Sex therapists across the US agree.
Eating more red meat is associated with an increased risk of dying from eight common diseases including cancer, diabetes and heart disease, as well as “all other causes” of death, according to a recen
Parents, caregivers and teachers often focus on teaching children to speak, to read and even to play. We also need to focus on helping to build children’s capacity for compassion, empathy and c
Seniors are Aging Out Loud in 2017. Here are 10 ways all ages can celebrate older Americans and help them do it.
The progressive disease is the most common form of dementia.
Researchers at the University of Wisconsin-Madison found 100 percent of monkey fetuses had traces of the virus - causing inflammation of the optic nerves. They say it could apply to humans.
Republican senators are conceding that a scathing report on the GOP's House-passed health care bill has complicated their effort to write their own legislation
Researchers analysed data of hundreds of UK children who had been born through IVF or ICSI (when the man has a low sperm count), testing the same groups of children every few years up to the age of 11
The Trump Administration's day-long hearing on the trade deficits, and what can or should be done about them, forces the question: What is a good trade partner? What should you measure? Total trade? E
New data from the health department reveals that 32 infants were born in the city to 402 women infected with the virus, all in travel-related cases.
function onPlayerReadyVidible(e){'undefined'!=typeof HPTrack&&HPTrack.Vid.Vidible_track(e)}!function(e,i){if(e.vdb_Player){if('object'==typeof commercial_video){var a='',o='m.fwsitesection='+commer
Patients who are told their medication can have certain side effects may report these symptoms more often than patients who aren't aware their treatment carries these risks, a study of popular cholest
A study leverages the unvarnished opinions of Redditors to further our understanding of what makes a good educator.
People who wear activity trackers to count the calories they're burning are probably not getting accurate estimates, suggests a new study.
Both the literature and practice indicate that children can stand without support starting at around 9 months old. Yet, with practice, children can stand without support even before they are 4 months
A recent study found that accepting a kidney from a deceased diabetic donor may be best option for older patients or those facing long waits on a transplant list.
A hospital chaplain counsels people in the throes of medical emergencies, unexpected diagnoses and end-of-life decisions.
function onPlayerReadyVidible(e){'undefined'!=typeof HPTrack&&HPTrack.Vid.Vidible_track(e)}!function(e,i){if(e.vdb_Player){if('object'==typeof commercial_video){var a='',o='m.fwsitesection='+commer
Faulty immune cells may play a role in hair loss, a new study suggests.
Mom, it's not all in your head: Dad does respond to toddler daughters and sons differently. Brain scans and random recordings of their times together prove it.
(Reuters) - General Motors Co was accused in a lawsuit on Thursday of rigging hundreds of thousands of diesel trucks with devices similar to those used by Volkswagen AG , to ensure they pass emission

Recent News

Weaker dollar comes to rand’s rescue

The rand extended gains against the dollar to a two-month high on Thursday as the greenback stumbled.
Read Full Article

TFG buys RAG in Australia for R3bn

TFG’s acquisition of RAG further broadens its international expansion into chosen geographical areas
Read Full Article

NUM presses for a 40-hour week

The National Union of Mineworkers tables its list of one-year wage demands to Kumba Iron Ore for the 2017 wage negotiations
Read Full Article

Bid to halt Eskom power cuts fails

AfriForum application to halt power cuts dismissed
Read Full Article

Implats to refinance $400m

Impala Platinum plunges in Johannesburg trading after saying it will refinance about R5.2 billion of convertible bonds, which could dilute existing shareholders.
Read Full Article

China's reforms not enough to arrest rising debt, another downgrade possible: Moody's

BEIJING (Reuters) - China's structural reforms will not be enough to arrest its rising debt, and another credit rating downgrade for the country is possible unless it gets its ballooning credit in che
Read Full Article

OPEC disappointment hits oil, stocks; sterling down on UK vote jitters

SINGAPORE (Reuters) - Crude prices were on the defensive on Friday after an agreement by OPEC to extend existing supply curbs disappointed investors wagering on larger cuts, prompting a move away from
Read Full Article

Manchester bombing: Ariana Grande's stage manager recalls explosion, pandemonium

For Tallahassee-based stage manager Art McConnell, the Manchester Ariana Grande concert was supposed to be just another performance on a world tour.             &#
Read Full Article

Bacolod Grab execs: ‘GrabCar has permit in Bacolod’

THE Grab management in Bacolod City on Thursday, May 25, said their operation is legal and they have a business permit from the city government. Grab Bacolod manager Jocelyn Yoshida and government com
Read Full Article

Popular Finance

Jacques Wilson of Hamilton puts on show at City championships

Read Full Article

Football players lead the pack in the 100 at the City Section track and field championships

There was no football in sight at Thursday night’s City Section track and field championships at El Camino College. That didn’t prevent the 100 meters from looking like a Football 100. Thankfully,
Read Full Article

Republican Greg Gianforte opens a steady lead with more than half the returns in Montana congressional race

Apparently thwarting Democratic hopes for a red-state win, Republican Greg Gianforte appeared headed to victory Thursday night in Montana’s closely watched congressional contest. Gianforte, 56, a
Read Full Article

Boys' volleyball: Southern California Regional semifinal results and championship schedule

Read Full Article

Penguins return to Stanley Cup Finals with 3-2 double OT win over Senators

The Pittsburgh Penguins are heading back to the Stanley Cup Final. Chris Kunitz beat Craig Anderson 5:09 into the second overtime to give the defending champions a 3-2 victory over the Ottawa Sen
Read Full Article

PM Modi to be in Assam today; to inaugurate projects

Modi, who led the BJP to a massive victory in the 2014 Lok Sabha elections, was sworn-in as the prime minister on May 26 that year.
Read Full Article

'Promposal' gets a big 'Nope' from Santa Monica Mountains park rangers

Park rangers for the Santa Monica Mountains are on the hunt for a “promposal” vandal, who scrawled a prom invitation on a rock near Sandstone Peak — the second year in a row the same message has a
Read Full Article

Gov. Jerry Brown's budget team drops its hotly debated plans to redefine the state's spending limit

Read Full Article

Ducks' injuries complicate planning for next season

The reverberations from the Ducks’ playoff elimination were felt deeply Thursday, enough to have an impact on their off-season strategy and next season. Defensemen Hampus Lindholm and Sami Vatanen
Read Full Article